Educators are obligated to provide a safe environment for students by adopting and enforcing policies against bullying. When school personnel and students accept the responsibility to support vulnerable children and stand together against intimidation, the problem of bullying diminishes and the school climate is enhanced.
What is bullying?
- Repeated physical or psychological intimidation of a child or children by individuals or groups.
- Physical acts like hitting, kicking or assaulting with a weapon.
- Extortion, stealing money or possessions.
- Teasing, name-calling, making racist remarks, spreading rumors, making threats, and excluding children from groups
Who is hurt by bullying?
The victim suffers. He/she is usually shy, anxious, passive, weak or may look or act differently. Victims often are socially isolated and lack communication and assertiveness skills. If bullying is ignored or downplayed, it can cause lifelong psychological damage by interfering with the victim's social and emotional development. In severe cases suicide or violence toward others can result from being bullied.
The perpetrator is hurt. He/she tends to be strong, aggressive and lack empathy for victims. The bully has learned that aggression brings rewards. If bullies are allowed to intimidate others, the resulting habits often lead to other antisocial behaviors such as delinquency and crime. In a longitudinal study of 800 aggressive children, Leonard Eron, Ph.D. University of Michigan, found that by age 30, 25% had an arrest record, while only 5% of nonaggressive children did. According to Eron, even the children identified as aggressive who were without an arrest record attained less education and reported more difficulties at work and in their personal lives.
The bystanders, who are the silent majority, are also adversely affected. They may feel fearful and anxious. If no negative consequences result from bullying, the observers may be drawn into aggression themselves.
Why do children bully?
- They may have been bullied or abused.
- They may have personally observed bullying behavior.
- They may have had a long exposure to media violence.
- They may have found that bullying is an easy way to get what they want.
What can administrators do to combat bullying?
- Provide adequate adult supervision before, during and after school on school grounds, in the lunchroom, and in the halls.
- Survey bully/victim problems at your school by using disciplinary records or through a school-wide questionnaire. Compile baseline data on the incidence of threatening behaviors. Listen to victim's stories and compile a report including anonymous quotes from children and teachers on what happened, how they reacted, and what effect the bullying had on them.
- Be mindful that bullying behavior is frequently concealed so adults may not be aware of it. Victims often do not report intimidation due to feelings of shame, fear of retaliation or fear the adults will not be able to protect them. In addition, many uninvolved children may be afraid to report intimidation for fear it might happen to them. Thus, promote reporting by keeping the name of the informer confidential, and by resolving the situation fairly.
- Develop a clear antibullying policy on how to deal with various intimidating behaviors from the mildest to the most vicious. Include appropriate, consistent responses and consequences.
- Hold a meeting of the entire school staff. Explain the findings to raise awareness of the problem, and discuss implementation of the antibullying policy.
- Involve parents, caregivers and community members through fliers, newsletters, parent-teacher meetings and media to elicit their support against harassment in schools.
- Inform students of the antibullying policy through a school-wide meeting or in each classroom. Define bullying, discuss the possible results, and explain the actions the victim should take, as well as the child who observes the intimidation. Stress that since bullying involves an imbalance of power, telling about a bullying situation is not tattling. Illicit their cooperation by explaining that when everyone complies, the school will be a safer, more peaceful place to learn.
- Have the teachers hold classroom meetings to reiterate the information shared on bullying and to reinforce what to do in a bullying situation. Provide age-appropriate role play exercises and related assignments that help children learn to manage their emotions and resolve disputes peacefully.
- Challenge school personnel to model respectful, accepting attitudes toward all children regardless of their socioeconomic status, race, gender or culture. Have them support the inclusion of isolated children by encouraging friendly, welcoming behaviors in other students.
- Have the teacher or counselor involve the victim in safe, group learning activities that foster his/her self-confidence and social interaction skills. Work with the bully on redirecting his/her behavior, developing empathy and increasing his/her prosocial skills. For additional assistance in dealing with a child who intimidates others, see Helping Children Cope with Anger.
- Have the teacher and/or counselor meet with the parent or caregiver of the bully to develop a plan of action to alleviate the problem. Also, meet with the parent or caregiver of the victim to discuss ways he/she can assist the child in developing assertiveness and friendship skills.
- If extreme bullying is noted, seek further professional mental health and/or law enforcement assistance.
Leah Davies received her Master's Degree from the Department of Counseling and Counseling Psychology, Auburn University. She has been dedicated to the well-being of children for over 44 years as a certified teacher, counselor, prevention specialist, parent, and grandparent. Her professional experience includes teaching, counseling, consulting, instructing at Auburn University, and directing educational and prevention services at a mental health agency.
Besides the Kelly Bear resources, Leah has written articles that have appeared in The American School Counseling Association Counselor, The School Counselor, Elementary School Guidance and Counseling Journal, Early Childhood News, and National Head Start Association Journal. She has presented workshops at the following national professional meetings: American School Counselor Association; Association for Childhood Education International; National Association for the Education of Young Children; National Child Care Association; National Head Start Association; National School-Age Child Care Alliance Conference.We are sure you will benefit by reading her blog.